Read, Write and Monetize with Bonobology

 Bonobology.com  right now is probably India's only website dedicated to documenting couple relationships as they exist among Indian couples globally.

They feature stories on various aspects of coupledom covering almost every possible facet of romantic relationships. Married life, divorce, love, cheating, humour in relationships, cheating, jealousy, struggles in relationships, being single, dating, loss of a partner, breakups, spirituality, sex and passion, LGBTQ and more. 

Today, economic, social and cultural landscapes are changing such that urban Indians are not always able to seek advice from their parents or even friends on their altered relationship dynamics. 

At Bonobology.com they have a diverse panel of experts (counsellors, life coaches, lawyers, sexologists...) from whom, thier readers can take advice (free of charge) on their relationship problems by simply writing in to us. 

Their thriving Community Discussion section is the space that their authors and readers use to discuss issues or seek answers from others in the Bonobology community. 

Their Blog section is very popular. They solicit write ups from writers and bloggers who wants to share their two cents on relationships. If you are interested to contribute, you can write to them. Get published, get read and earn while doing it.

They are looking for non-fiction experiences and personal narratives. You can change names/scenario to protect privacy (of the people involved).

 They don’t accept fiction, poems or opinion pieces. They include photographs of those quoted. Works should be previously unpublished and written exclusively for Bonobology.

The content should broadly fall under the following categories:

1. Being Single/ Dating
2. Love/ Romance/ Friendship
3. Live-in & Open Relationships
4. LGBT
5. Marriage
6. Sex and Passion
7. Affair
8. Emotional Scars and Struggles
9. Divorce/ Break-up & Loss
10. Spirituality/ Mythology
11. Celebrity Speak
12. Expert Speak

They also have begun a weekly contest - the winner gets a 1000 Rs. gift voucher from Amazon. 

This Week’s Contest link: One Thing I never want to change in my partner

Writers (and readers) can WhatsApp their full names to their mobile number+91 98250 27649 and get registered with them and get their contest alerts!

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Check out some of the articles featured that you might like:

From a happy marriage to remarriage

Why the triple talaq matters to me

They love each other but are not sure of marriage

Ten things a single man can do to keep busy

Social Media and Relationships

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I am a social media addict. My social life is often limited to hitting likes on the posts of my friends and snooping on intriguing people on Facebook and Twitter. I don't travel much because of  travel sickness. I hence follow websites on social media which would take me on a virtual tour to different parts of the world. I also find happiness going through vacation photos posted by my friends.

The debate on Indispire this week is whether social media is killing relationships. In my honest opinion, it isn't because it can't. Social media is a powerful social tool. It is the individual who indulge themselves mindlessly on social media neglecting family life who is to be blamed for the problems he/she brings into the relationships. 

When scientists invented nuclear fission, their dream was to use its immense energy for constructive purposes. But like always, we have found out that the same energy can be used to kill and erase entire cities in a flash. Likewise, every good invention is misused. On one side we find social media being used for creating awareness about disasters, diseases, terrorism, new inventions, crowdfunding and also actively reconnecting individuals. On the other side, we also find it being used to troll individuals, public shaming, porn, and terrorism. The world has become a smaller place thanks to the social media and the internet.

Like every interesting tool, it is becoming an addiction. I remember the years when cable television was first introduced. I used to spend hours before it. My parents were worried that my grades would go down. They thought I might be getting all the wrong ideas from the foreign serials and programs I was being exposed to. Luckily, I had the common sense to cut down on what might harm me. I guess the same applies to social media. 

We have family WhatsApp groups which allow us to stay in touch with the family members living away from us. College and School groups bring in tides from ex-classmates. I connect with my readers and other writers through Facebook and Twitter. My first publishing opportunity came via Facebook.

I know it is not all rosy on Social media. I have faced public shaming and trolling from people whom I considered as friends. But like in life, we recognise the real nature of these individuals through such happenings . It is often at the time of crisis that real friends appear. Jerks on the internet are often jerks in real life. They rightly deserve that special slot on your blocked list. Purge them and protect your sanity. For the sociopaths and psychopaths, we have the cyber police.

Another common complaint these days is that infidelity is on the rise after old campus flames are getting reconnected via social media. Again the individuals are to be blamed. If everything was fine in their relationships, the flame would have failed to rekindle in the first place. 

What is to be strictly monitored is the time we spend on social media. It eats away at our family time if we do not monitor it. We can become its master instead of its slave if we are aware of the impact it has on our time and relationships. Rekindle the spark in a dying relationship by visiting a counsellor.

Do you think social media is to be blamed for the failure of many relationships?